Any of you guilty of “blaming the dog” for stuff? Farting, eating your homework, that missing cookie, etc…?
Don’t forget Queens! Today is International Tiara Day! Wear your crowns proudly!
Please enjoy the following guilty pleasure if you happen to have one of the vintage Duncan Hines Tiara Dessert pans from the 80’s. If not I’m sure you can make do with what you have on hand and play it by ear.
You can place the strawberries over a custard or vanilla pudding layer as I did or just top with the strawberries. Whipped cream can only improve the experience.
That word gets thrown around a lot lately for good reason. Many are currently wearing this label and more will in the future if our culture does not turn back to Godly ways instead of the selfish worldly ways that our mainstream has made so popular and attractive. Speaking of “attractive” it is the very definition of the word itself. Per Dictionary.com the definition of narcissism is “every beautiful, perfect looking superstar you know!” That’s not really their definition, it’s mine. Their definition is “inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love; vanity. Psychoanalysis: erotic gratification derived from admiration of one’s own physical or mental attributes, being a normal condition at the infantile level of personality development.” Sound like anyone you know right now or promoted by various media as healthy and normal? We all can say Donald Trump and he does not even try to hide it. I don’t say this to put him down, just stating fact and it’s not attractive.
Narcissus flowers, of a similar name, also the name of a character in Greek Mythology where the term narcissism originated. So beautiful in springtime!
If you really want to declutter for this year try throwing away Doubt, Worry, Regret, Bad Feelings & Fear. Try replacing them with Faith, Hope & Prayer!
- Smaller portions.
- Increase exercise.
- Adjust all recipes for less fat & sugar.
- Most good, healthy meals don’t take many ingredients or need to be complicated.
- Omit or decrease dressings, sauces & gravies.
- Do not fry your foods, ever! I have cooked frozen southern style hash browns in my toaster oven with no oil a few times. I will sometimes coat them with a teaspoon but cooking in oil adds many unneeded calories.
- I am not a raw vegetable cruncher. Adjusted snacks to healthy choices of just small piece of cheese, teaspoon peanut butter, Harvest Snaps, Creative Snacks Co Almond Clusters & dark chocolate.
Always remember that cutting things down is not only healthier for you but saves you money as well.
I was hurling through space the other day, one of my usual “out of body” experiences I like to do so I can be reminded of just how small and insignificant me and my problems really are in the grand scheme of things.
Bubbles make all things better, even space!
Bubbles make all things clean again!
Cute prompt for tax day. “Fret.” Many are fretting today. Not really sure why. As long as you had your withholding done correctly during the year or have been paying your quarterly estimated taxes and self employment tax if you are self employed there should be no problem. I’m not addressing business owners in this post. Not really sure why so many wait until this deadline date to “race the clock” sending in their tax payments.
Some of the self employed get behind simply because they are not being responsible or budgeting properly and cannot really even afford to be running their own business or be self employed but try it anyway thinking they can omit expenses they are able ignore for the time being such as tax liabilities. Some get behind because of unexpected expenses and overhead. Make your decisions accordingly or your tax liabilities will begin to add up and accrue so many penalties and interest it will be very hard to make things right again.
Forget “pennies on the dollar” because unless you are truly in a hardship situation like dying broke or completely unable to make future payments, the IRS will never accept these offers. Why should they? Extenuating circumstances aside, why would anyone think that they should be the exception in paying their fair share of taxes while employed?
You can file for your 6 month extension at this time if you are still waiting for more paperwork for some reason. There is rarely a reason anyone should file an extension since the extension is only for the filing, never for the tax due. All payment of any tax is always due on the April 15th, 17th this year, deadline whether you file an extension or not. If you do not send in full payment by this deadline expect additional penalties and interest to apply.
Be sure to address your various state and local income tax filing laws as well.
I loved that song that was written by Frank Loesser in 1944 and sold to MGM which they used in Neptune’s Daughter and performed by Esther Williams and Ricardo Montalban. It’s since been recorded and sung by many others but no other rendition beats the original or this remake by Homer & Jethro with June Carter.
Spring is on the way but temperatures are still in the 20’s today with snow flurries. Temps are expected to climb into the 50’s by next week so fingers crossed!
Jesus the Christ
Imagine everyone you know currently in our media being humble, really serving others and making great sacrifices. Imagine the wealthy giving all they have to others more needy, within reason. I’m not saying walk around with nothing after some earned it legitimately, I mean those that are paid millions actually living in an average home, driving a decent car and giving away most of what’s left to others that will never have the chance to earn it due to lower intellect, not being cute enough or just being born into poverty from which for most there is no way out.
I love some of the lines from current Christian music that lay it on the line about those who currently “save the trees but kill the children” also “what if the family turned to Jesus, stopped asking Oprah what to do.” Sad state of affairs but that is another blog. Today I am posting a video with some of Jesus “Greatest Hits” by video. Hope to make some others soon, maybe with a theme.
Happy Resurrection Sunday!
Music is by Michael W Smith (Stand) Come to the Cross.
As always graphics by Po’ Girl Shines/C A Lewis©
I like to bake to calm myself down.
Yesterday’s blog post was very cathartic for me and I was so happy to finally release some of my true feelings into the universe. Just because someone’s truth is not pleasant does not mean that they should bury it inside feeling shame for things they could not control and did not want. It’s one thing to harp on things another to finally state the facts.
So last night I wanted to use up the rest of my sour cream before it goes bad and found this great recipe that I divided in half and changed ever so slightly to lower the sugar and sodium content. It was from my vintage Betty Crocker’s Cookbook that I received as a gift at my wedding shower in 1972.
The recipe was for Sour Cream Coffee Cake.
This book has been well used through these many years and it shows. Below is the recipe I prepared because I only wanted one loaf and the recipe above is for two loaves. I also did not add any additional salt, used low sodium/sodium free baking powder and cake flour instead of all purpose. If you are using all purpose flour, you only need 1 1/2 cups flour.
To me, less is always more when it comes to ingredients and seasoning. You have to be careful in baking to have the right fats and leavenings with your binding ingredients but you can play around with recipes to get desired flavor or results. No recipe is carved in stone so to speak. Much like the recipe below is not exactly half of the above recipe but it came out great.
When the cake was finished baking in the loaf pan, I microwaved 2 Tbs butter with 1/4 C brown sugar for a few minutes, checking every 30 seconds or so to thicken, then stirred in about 1/2 cup pecan halves to coat. When the cake was finished I spread it evenly across the top while it was hot and everything set when it cooled.
Was going to write a pleasant, congenial blog post about trees so I didn’t have to be real about what I have been feeling as of late. I have decided to go another route completely and make this “branch” prompt about branches on my family tree. The heck with trees, I just want to talk some truth today. I’m actually allowing my brain to “regurgitate” all kinds of krap that I hold inside of myself. I think getting my DNA tests back and researching various family is causing me to feel things that I usually choose to push way back as I live my life on automatic. I was in such a bad mood yesterday after a distant relative “innocently” made a very thoughtless and incorrect comment about my life to me and I flew off the handle. My mood has not improved as I have had time to reflect on many things.
Some of you might have read some things I posted about a year ago when I was finding out more things about my family that I had not known or was not sure about. That is when I received a few things from a family member regarding news coverage of the vicious crimes my father was involved in before I was born and that he was only captured when the police shot out their stolen car and stopped he and his “gang.”
My parents marriage was a freak show that lasted 19 years with many hiccups along the way. They were separated many times for various reasons such as other women or incarcerations. There was that one time that my father was actually one of the Detroit 59er’s but that was a complete “bust” as well. A person with a positive brain would concentrate on this story, but that’s not what I’m going to do since my father decided to get drunk and give up as usual. He has so many opportunities I could only dream of and threw them all away for whatever reason.
My mother had a chance to divorce him when she was incarcerated while pregnant with me as a possible accessory to his criminal actions and a few times after that but she wouldn’t let go. It wasn’t until recently when I heard someone explain the psychological make up of those that choose to stay with narcissists did it make sense to me. They were a perfect fit. She hated herself and he agreed with her. He continued to commit various crimes in between infrequent employment, running around with other women, drinking and brain operations to help ease grand mal seizures caused by scar tissue received falling from a horse as a young teen.
Never heard any stories about my father because neither of his parents cared about him or their grandchildren. I never knew either one of them. I met his alcoholic father a few times but he never said a word to me the times we were down to their farm years ago. His mother took off because of his father’s drinking and refusal to hold a job and she never looked back. She didn’t want her son, because he cramped her style trying to find another man. I don’t really know what she was doing but she managed to move all over the country for a while until she came back to Detroit to fulfill her dream of marrying a wealthy man.
I saw her for a short time while we lived in an old farmhouse in the country nearby owned my her new hubby. He owned a number of businesses and homes in and around metro Detroit. My father was running one of the businesses until he began stealing from his own father in law because whatever he was being paid and living in a free house was not good enough for him. He was fired and we were kicked out, forcing him into yet another mediocre job to survive and moving into a very run down, rat infested home in Detroit.
My dad was nice looking and could be very fun and charming when he wanted to be. I will say as abusive as he was when he was drunk, I still preferred him over my mom. He taught me to play the guitar, banjo and the piano, loved animals and shared everything he had with me like his collection of records including John Lee Hooker and Johnny Cash and his only guitar. With my mother everything was “you don’t need this, no you can’t have it.” My father was never good with money and sometimes even at our poorest, he would say “hey kids, let’s go down for some ice cream.” My mother would say “they don’t need ice cream” because she knew we couldn’t afford it but my dad would say he knew we didn’t “need” it but he wanted to get it for us anyway.
My mother was an odd, inhibited, beaten down person that didn’t like to cook or clean house and completely ignored her family unless she was fighting with my father about something. She had to be suffering from depression but was never treated for it. She would vacillate between being lost in books and newspapers completely ignoring us to lashing out if you provoked her and we loved to provoke her just to get any kind of reaction. My brothers still talk about how we knew our mom was not paying attention to us so we would ask or tell her outrageous things to hear her pat answer of “that’s nice kids.” Stuff like “mom, Bryan just set the house on fire.” “That’s nice kids.” We would laugh! “Hey mom, Bob just stabbed Bryan.” “That’s nice kids.” Course we stopped laughing when he actually did it one day.
My mother was also a victim of a closed head injury when she was hit by a Trolly in Detroit as a teen, suffered a severe concussion as well as fractured skull. She was is a coma for quite some time according to my grandmother but fully recovered having to relearn some things which put her back a year with no memory of the incident. My mother’s intellect never appeared to be affected and she love to put the rest of us down or laugh at my dad because he was not very bright. Can’t imagine why he chose the company of other women to her and always spent as much time away from the house as possible.
As I write this out and edit so many things are becoming clear like why the chip on my shoulder is so large and why I have so much pain and emptiness inside of me. I never had the love that I needed so desperately. Many of us don’t. I was never invited, never felt welcome, was always considered a misfit or an outcast, just like the rest of my sad, loveless family. I never meant for this post to develop as a bitch fest about my parents but folks have to realize we are all victims of circumstance no matter what our station in life.
Years ago I finally told my mother that I never felt loved by her or anyone in my family. She was half-assed defensive about it but I told her our family was unGodly. The Word of God was NEVER spoken in our house and where there is no God there is no love. I truly believe that. I believe the only reason I survived this freak show somewhat intact was that I did get to live my first four years with my Christian Aunt and those years are the most formative even if you cannot remember everything that happened. My sister and I used to stay with her and my maternal Gram on weekends after that because it was too hard for my parents to take care of us all. I am not a well-adjusted person nor do I cope with things well because I feel every slight or disappointment that happens is just another reminder that I will never win in my life and I am right. It’s not a good feeling. When I was younger I could convince myself that things were going to get better. I was wrong.
I can pray all I want but I know the spiritual truth of this evil world because I’ve lived it. The more good I do, the worse things that happen in my life. God only knows why because sometimes good things do happen to good people but more often than not “no good deed goes unpunished.” That saying came about like Murphy’s Law, from real people living real lives and seeing certain things in action, not in wish-fulfillment. I believe in praying to God to thank Him for each day and for strength and mercy but I have given up on the dream that I will ever have things the way I think they should be in my life and in the world. I have seen such suffering and pain in others as well as myself that defies any logic of spiritual reciprocation. The great thing about that is that is does not discourage me because that’s not why I do things. God knows my heart that when I do it, I do it freely for Him, not for a favor from Him.
Those that have many trials have to decide to how they wish to respond to those trials. I just saw something the other day about the load some have to carry is not about the weight but how you choose to carry it that will break you. I know some alcoholics that bitch and moan and cry about the same thing all the time because for some reason they cannot mature enough inside themselves to understand that this is life and sometimes there’s not a damned thing you can do about it no matter how hard you try. Which means grow up and deal with it instead of feeling sorry for yourself. Develop a grateful heart, a heart for God. A heart for revenge if you must. Revenge against evil and that is in doing good. This type of thinking helps me cope with my reality.